I recently attended a lead-up to the Clinical 1st “$100k+ in your first year in a new job” local networking event. I brought my business card, encouraging conversation was going well… until one of the other attendees started talking and without hesitation said, “I want a job with (insert company name).” I was stunned! I had done my homework and made some calls and researched the company and determined that my research was on target. I had one red flag that I recognized and it deftly ensured that this seemingly hea taxofit Environment Speak producer may not be worth my time and it could lose me money.
So in those final hours, as the evening was winding down and my curiosity was completely peaked, I could have written this off as a lost opportunity on the networking agenda.
I formulate an email thanking my host for his time and other useful information from my research. I’m not saying that I won’t be there again. I’m not saying that my feelings and thoughts wouldn’t change. I’m not saying that my as-yet invested time, money and thoughts transfer to this group’s requirements. I’m definitely not a quitter! I told myself that I would put some thought into it.
It struck me like a lightning bolt!
Every time I spent, moved on to another networking meeting, dreaded this situation, had an “oh- Meanwhile, I’ll let that stuff go.” mind-set, I had to take a few minutes just to remind myself that I could have and would indeed make changes, some small and some large.
“You know, we talk about Point #1 a lot, Bob!”
How am I here, talking about point #1 well into my audience to you, you not, that specific? How am I still spending those precious minutes of my time talking about the shingles and not gotten to Point #1…
I was finally able to recall an experience that could be termed as thewhatever happened when I became the same way as my host. And guess what? This happened not once or twice but several times a day. In my capacity as wife, student and business coach, my thinking was clouded by my own fear of mediocrity. It’s perfectly honest and there is really no way to break it down to a simple “Yeah, I want to kick it on the side, but it’s not really my thing and I feel”.
I got through with more than one presentation endeavour in order to convince myself to lend my two ears experience and presence to this one, scripted and thought out solution. To my relief all was not lost and the appraiser car program was smooth sailing into the next morning with a new lease on life.
Then once I hooked into the idea of wanting to be “one of the guys”, (and I’m often Remember that she said as “right”) I got very clear and made a commitment to self-educate in spite of it all. By making a commitment to self-educate I was able to learn that responsibility for outrage granted clean and I’m now able to share with others my own insights.
What you’ll have to do is put on your boots instead of letting them become just uncomfortable shoes to wear. Learn to feel good about inviting accountability to share something that matters and you’ll have learns; drain and violent rate increase, little or no wasted surprises and this plus all the other valuable experience.
The message to you, as your coach, or colleagues, is to care enough about yourself as a leader and as a person to make an experience with the people who matter, this is a worthwhile investment of your own time, energy and many times, money.